Kit Elements

• Black Candle: Release of the old—absorbing and transmuting heavy or lingering energy.

• White Candle: Return to self—clarity, peace, and new beginnings.

• Twine: the energetic bond between you—honoured, witnessed, and consciously released.

• Garden Sage: Gently clears emotions, supporting compassionate release and closure.

• Salt: Grounds and protects—creating a stable, clear energetic boundary.

• Chili flakes: Ignites transformation—cutting through lingering ties with strength and finality.

• Bay Leaf: A vessel for release—noting your intention as you consciously let it go.

A few notes before you begin: This ritual is a tool for intention setting and inner reflection. It is not a spell or guaranteed outcome. Through your focused intention and presence during this ritual, you are consciously shifting your energy—creating space for release, clarity, and a return to self.

Always practice fire safety: Burn the candles and the bay leaf on a heat-safe surface, never leave flames unattended, and keep away from flammable materials, children, and pets.

Ritual Guidance

Find a quiet space where you won’t be disturbed. The candles should burn down completely – about 2 hours. Take a few deep breaths, allowing your body to soften and your mind to settle.

Using a fire-safe plate, briefly light each candle and let the wax drip to secure the candles to the plate. Blow out the candles. Place the black candle on your left (representing what you are releasing) and the white candle on your right (representing your return to self).

Tie the twine around both candles. Visualize the energetic cord between you and this person.

Pour the salt around each candle – creating energetic boundaries between then. Sprinkle the herbs on the plate, focusing on the intention each carries.

Light the candles. Speak the following aloud and with authoritative confidence – repeat as many times as needed to feel this intention deeply. Adapt as needed so that you speak your truth.

“I release this connection with clarity, compassion and completion.  I am grateful for the lessons I have learned from this relationship.  I am ready to integrate these lessons and step into my power.
I call my energy back to myself, fully and completely. I release what no longer serves my highest and greatest good.”

Write a word or intention on the bay leaf.  Hold the bay leaf and focus on what you are letting go. When you feel ready, burn the bay leaf safely (or tear it), symbolizing the release.

Observe the candles burn, noticing any shifts in your body, breath, and emotions. Use your intuition to interpret the flame, smoke, and how the cord burns. Avoid over-interpreting the ritual as this can keep your attention tied to the connection, rather than allowing it to fully release. Let what unfolds simply be witnessed.

Close by thanking yourself and the energies that supported your ritual.

The true shift happens through your intention, your readiness, and your choice to return to your own sovereignty.